Hi. I'm
Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I
share with you how to deal with your bad marriage
(below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll
email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how I can help you with your bad marriage.
One of
the questions I'm most frequently asked is, “How do you know when
it's time to quit?” If your marriage is in rough shape and you’ve
been trying to make it work for a while, you’ve probably asked
yourself this question as well.
You always
have the option to call it quits. But once you pull that trigger,
it's over. No more chances. Your life will never be the same.
Do you have kids? If you do, their life will never be the same.
You don't ever want to look back and wonder if things could have
been different.
If you
have to end a bad marriage, you want to know DEEP IN YOUR HEART
that you did everything you could to make it work. You want to
be able to move on with your life and into another relationship
with a clear head. You want to come to a place of healthy “completion.”
THIS IS CRUCIAL! And to accomplish this, in my experience, it
takes at least one year. I know it probably seems like a long
time, but it's an investment in the rest of your life. Obviously,
it's worth the effort if you turn your marriage around. But if
you don't, it will NOT have been a wasted year.
The work
I do with marriage coaching clients sometimes turns out to be
more beneficial for them in their next relationship than in their
current one. I remember once when the marriage of someone who
registered for the Lone Ranger track of the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot
Camp ended in the middle of the program. This man asked me if
he should continue with the final 3 weeks of the program. I said,
“Absolutely.” He responded, “Why? What's the point? My marriage
is not just bad- it’s over.”
“You're
not doing it for this marriage,” I explained. “You're doing it
for the benefit of your next one.”
Now don't
get me wrong. I'm not saying that your intention while you're
working on your marriage should be for the benefit of your life
after your marriage. Your intention needs to be to restore your
CURRENT relationship. Chances are you can still save your marriage,
even if things are currently in a bad state of affairs. But if
you fail, your effort will NOT have been for naught. I have seen
too many cases of spouses ending their marriage prematurely, and
as result of not reaching “completion” in one relationship, they
find themselves in a bad situation a few years later with someone
else.
If your
relationship is going from bad to worse as you read this, then
listen carefully. The bottom line is- It's NEVER too late! In
fact (and here's real food for thought), very often the turning
point in a marriage is when a couple hits rock bottom. Sometimes
it's not until things get that bad that they can get better.
Do
you want more FREE advice and a FREE marriage assessment? No strings
attached. All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right
and I'll email you both. After the free sign-up, you'll go to
a web page that'll explain further about an alternative to marriage
counseling.
.
I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
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