Hi. I'm Mort
Fertel, creator of Marriage
Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share
with you one step to building a better marriage
(below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email
you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a better marriage.
Now listen to this.
Have you ever heard the
phrase "You are what you eat"? This catchy slogan from the fitness
industry reminds us that how we "spend" our calories determines our
health. Want to be fat? Then eat lots of fat. Want to be healthy?
Better eat your vegetables.
However, when it comes to your
marriage I would say, "YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO." In other words, how you
and your spouse SPEND YOUR TIME determines the strength of your
marriage. Spend it together and you'll feel connected. Do your own
thing too often and you might sleep in the same bed, but you'll feel
worlds apart.
At the beginning of your
relationship, you probably had no trouble spending lots of time
together doing just about anything. And, in fact, SHARING TIME was
exactly what CREATED CLOSENESS between you. But as the years went by,
you probably took up separate interests, and began to spend more and
more time apart.
Many couples are very good at
coordinating compatible lives. He's got his schedule. She's got her
schedule. Some couples sleep under one roof, but they lead COMPLETELY
separate lives. You can achieve compatibility like this (like you had
with your college roommate), which is not a bad thing, but you won't be
making your marriage any better. You might manage your family fine, but
your relationship will NOT be fulfilling. And you’ll be
lonely. You might not be alone, but you’ll be lonely.
Our culture today promotes
independence. We even have something called the 'Me Generation.' But a better marriage
requires a "Move from Me to We." Love requires SPENDING TIME TOGETHER
and being involved in each other's lives. It’s not about
being independent; it’s about being successfully
INTERdependent.
Do you remember when you used
to visit each other at work? Meet each other’s family and
friends? Help solve each other’s problems? Ask each
other’s opinions? Learn about each other’s
interests? That’s the ticket to a better marriage!!!!!
Of course, I know this
doesn’t sound appealing if your marriage is on the rocks. You
may not feel like being together. But which comes first, a good
marriage or involvement in each other’s lives? Which is the
cause and which is the effect? The answer is: involvement or
interdependence is one of the primary ingredients for creating a better
marriage.
In the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot
Camp™, I work with you to find meaningful ways for you and
your spouse to get involved in each others lives. Once you find those
ways (and we always do!), it's like magic. Think about it: how could
you be involved in your spouse’s life better? Getting
involved does not necessarily mean that you have to do the activity
together. It could mean that you watch the activity, plan for it, pack
for it, budget for it, buy supplies for it, or research it in
preparation for discussion. How you get involved depends on you, your
spouse, and the interest. There are endless possibilities. The goal is
to GET INVOLVED in some way so your spouse's interest becomes part of
your life too.
If you'd like to learn how to do that and more
tips about how to have a better marriage,
then sign up in the box to the right and I'll send you FREE advice and
a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
After
the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about
an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've
been where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more in a
moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next web page.
Warm
regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of Marriage Fitness
Marriage
Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
As seen in:
