Hi. I'm
Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I
share with you one step to building a better marriage
(below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll
email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a better marriage.
Now listen
to this.
Have you
ever heard the phrase "You are what you eat"? This catchy slogan
from the fitness industry reminds us that how we "spend" our calories
determines our health. Want to be fat? Then eat lots of fat. Want
to be healthy? Better eat your vegetables.
However,
when it comes to your marriage I would say, "YOU ARE WHAT YOU
DO." In other words, how you and your spouse SPEND YOUR TIME determines
the strength of your marriage. Spend it together and you'll feel
connected. Do your own thing too often and you might sleep in
the same bed, but you'll feel worlds apart.
At the
beginning of your relationship, you probably had no trouble spending
lots of time together doing just about anything. And, in fact,
SHARING TIME was exactly what CREATED CLOSENESS between you. But
as the years went by, you probably took up separate interests,
and began to spend more and more time apart.
Many couples
are very good at coordinating compatible lives. He's got his schedule.
She's got her schedule. Some couples sleep under one roof, but
they lead COMPLETELY separate lives. You can achieve compatibility
like this (like you had with your college roommate), which is
not a bad thing, but you won't be making your marriage any better.
You might manage your family fine, but your relationship will
NOT be fulfilling. And you’ll be lonely. You might not be alone,
but you’ll be lonely.
Our culture
today promotes independence. We even have something called the
'Me Generation.' But a better
marriage requires a "Move from Me to We." Love requires SPENDING
TIME TOGETHER and being involved in each other's lives. It’s not
about being independent; it’s about being successfully INTERdependent.
Do you
remember when you used to visit each other at work? Meet each
other’s family and friends? Help solve each other’s problems?
Ask each other’s opinions? Learn about each other’s interests?
That’s the ticket to a better marriage!!!!!
Of course,
I know this doesn’t sound appealing if your marriage is on the
rocks. You may not feel like being together. But which comes first,
a good marriage or involvement in each other’s lives? Which is
the cause and which is the effect? The answer is: involvement
or interdependence is one of the primary ingredients for creating
a better marriage.
In the
Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp™, I work with you to find meaningful
ways for you and your spouse to get involved in each others lives.
Once you find those ways (and we always do!), it's like magic.
Think about it: how could you be involved in your spouse’s life
better? Getting involved does not necessarily mean that you have
to do the activity together. It could mean that you watch the
activity, plan for it, pack for it, budget for it, buy supplies
for it, or research it in preparation for discussion. How you
get involved depends on you, your spouse, and the interest. There
are endless possibilities. The goal is to GET INVOLVED in some
way so your spouse's interest becomes part of your life too.
If
you'd like to learn how to do that and more tips about how to
have a better marriage, then sign up in the box
to the right and I'll send you FREE advice and a FREE marriage
assessment. No strings attached.
After the
free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further
about an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
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