Hi. I'm
Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I
share with you one step to building a good marriage (below),
I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll
email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a good marriage.
Now here's
some food for thought.
Were your
mom and dad happily married? Is your marriage like theirs was?
If you're having marital problems, the chances are good that your
parents struggled in their marriage too.
Research
shows that if your parents divorced, then your marriage is more
likely to end in divorce as well. Freud documented well the impact
that heredity and upbringing has on a person's fate. We learn
"tapes" early on that we play again and again, oblivious to how
they consistently control (and destroy) our lives. But does that
mean the destiny of your marriage was determined years ago? Does
that mean your fate was sealed by your genes and your childhood?
There
is no doubt that you have relationship instincts that run good
and deep. But those instincts do NOT have you. Your past constantly
vies for control of your future, but at the end of the day YOU
have a CHOICE. Your domain is this moment, and every moment, when
you can DECIDE to write a new script. At any time, in every time,
you can decide to be the master of your destiny; rather than a
victim to your past. This, by the way, is the real value in understanding
your past and your childhood roots. So that you can consciously
REJECT what you know doesn't work and replace old habits with
good ones.
This,
of course, is no simple task. Not only because it's hard to break
old habits and learn new ways, but also because most people have
made good with the status quo. In other words, most people are
happier doing what they know doesn't work than they are working
on something that they don't know. But that's what it takes to
be a "transition person." A transition person is someone who breaks
free from unhealthy relationship patterns that have been in their
family for generations.
You are
by no means a product solely of your heredity or environment.
There is a third element: YOUR DECISION. And that trumps ALL past
events. Here, in my opinion, lies the real good of marriage education:
educating someone to acquire the ability to CHOOSE their behavior.
A good marriage is not something that just happens; you have to
craft it. It's a result of deliberate and conscious decisions
to make a new way in your relationship.
If
you want to learn more about how to make those choices and take
control of the destiny of your marriage, then sign up in the box
to the right and I'll send you FREE advice and a FREE marriage
assessment. No strings attached.
All you
have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email you
both.
After the
free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further
about an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
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