Hi. I'm Mort
Fertel, creator of Marriage
Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share
with you one step to building a good marriage (below),
I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment. No
strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email
you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a good marriage.
Now here's some food for
thought.
Were your mom and dad happily
married? Is your marriage like theirs was? If you're having marital
problems, the chances are good that your parents struggled in their
marriage too.
Research shows that if your
parents divorced, then your marriage is more likely to end in divorce
as well. Freud documented well the impact that heredity and upbringing
has on a person's fate. We learn "tapes" early on that we play again
and again, oblivious to how they consistently control (and destroy) our
lives. But does that mean the destiny of your marriage was determined
years ago? Does that mean your fate was sealed by your genes and your
childhood?
There is no doubt that you
have relationship instincts that run good and deep. But those instincts
do NOT have you. Your past constantly vies for control of your future,
but at the end of the day YOU have a CHOICE. Your domain is this
moment, and every moment, when you can DECIDE to write a new script. At
any time, in every time, you can decide to be the master of your
destiny; rather than a victim to your past. This, by the way, is the
real value in understanding your past and your childhood roots. So that
you can consciously REJECT what you know doesn't work and replace old
habits with good ones.
This, of course, is no simple
task. Not only because it's hard to break old habits and learn new
ways, but also because most people have made good with the status quo.
In other words, most people are happier doing what they know doesn't
work than they are working on something that they don't know. But
that's what it takes to be a "transition person." A transition person
is someone who breaks free from unhealthy relationship patterns that
have been in their family for generations.
You are by no means a product
solely of your heredity or environment. There is a third element: YOUR
DECISION. And that trumps ALL past events. Here, in my opinion, lies
the real good of marriage education: educating someone to acquire the
ability to CHOOSE their behavior. A good marriage is not something that
just happens; you have to craft it. It's a result of deliberate and
conscious decisions to make a new way in your relationship.
If you want to learn more about how to make
those choices and take control of the destiny of your marriage, then
sign up in the box to the right and I'll send you FREE advice and a
FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up
in the box to the right and I'll email you both.
After the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page
that'll explain further about an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've
been where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more in a
moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next web page.
Warm regards,
Mort
Fertel
Author of Marriage
Fitness
Marriage
Coach
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