Hi. I'm Mort
Fertel, creator of Marriage
Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share
with you how to have a happy marriage
(below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email
you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a happy marriage.
Now here's some advice for starters.
Do you need help finding ways to maintain or recreate the love in your
marriage? Here are four key ingredients for a happy marriage. Consider
it a “recipe” for love.
1) Marriage ingredient number
one is called a “Talk Charge”:
A Talk Charge is a 60 second positive, LOVING, verbal interaction with
your spouse about a NON LOGISTICAL matter. If you're like most couples,
you need to start talking again. Tell your spouse about your dreams.
Share your fears. Tell a joke. Talk about the interesting person you
met today or the experience you had jogging in the park. If you want a
happy marriage, make a point of doing a Talk Charge today. You
don’t have to be all sweetsie if you don’t want to.
Just make sure you don’t discuss anything logistical. Your
relationship will benefit immensely from consistent, positive verbal
interactions like these.
2) Add a fair amount of
“Touch Charges”:
A Touch Charge is similar, but it uses touch instead of talk. A Touch
Charge is a LOVING physical gesture with your spouse. It's not foreplay
or an advance for love making; it's just a warm touch for the sake of
connecting in that moment. You should make it clear that you're
touching them solely to connect. Do something you know will make them
happy. Perhaps this will be a warm kiss or a gentle rub. You could
stroke their cheek or massage their shoulders, whatever you know they
enjoy. It only takes a moment, but the positive energy can carry you
through an entire evening. And it when done consistently it will do
wonders for your marriage.
3) Try some
“Giving” for seasoning:
What could you give your spouse that would make them glow and look at
you with intense appreciation? Did they recently mention they wanted
something? What's your spouse’s favorite dessert? Favorite
flower? Favorite spot for a romantic retreat? Try thinking of a gift
you could give that would make your spouse really happy. Then give it
to them. Do this often and watch your marriage improve.
4) Finally, a happy marriage
requires a healthy dose of “Getting Involved”:
A strong relationship is created when both spouses are committed to
being involved with one another. This will require a shift in thought,
a “Move from Me to We.” Love requires SPENDING TIME
TOGETHER and being involved in each other's lives. It’s not
about being independent; it’s about being successfully
INTERdependent. Do you remember when you used to visit each other at
work? Meet each other’s family and friends? When you were
happy to help each other out? That’s the ticket! The idea is
to get involved somehow in your spouse’s interest. This
simple action will give your relationship a boost where it needs it.
The above “ingredients”
can be added to your marriage in any order. Don’t be
afraid to experiment either. Your own recipe for lasting love
will take some time and adjustments, but if you follow these
steps, you are on your way to a happy marriage.
Want
the rest of the recipe? I have much more FREE advice for you
and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached. All you
have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email
you both. After the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page
that'll explain further about an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've
been where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more in a
moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next web page.
Warm regards,
Mort
Fertel
Author
of Marriage
Fitness
Marriage
Coach
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