Hi. I'm
Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I
share with you how to have a happy marriage (below),
I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll
email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you can help you create a happy marriage.
Now here's some advice for starters.
Do you need help finding ways to maintain or recreate the love
in your marriage? Here are four key ingredients for a happy marriage.
Consider it a “recipe” for love.
1) Marriage
ingredient number one is called a “Talk Charge”:
A Talk Charge is a 60 second positive, LOVING, verbal interaction
with your spouse about a NON LOGISTICAL matter. If you're like
most couples, you need to start talking again. Tell your spouse
about your dreams. Share your fears. Tell a joke. Talk about the
interesting person you met today or the experience you had jogging
in the park. If you want a happy marriage, make a point of doing
a Talk Charge today. You don’t have to be all sweetsie if you
don’t want to. Just make sure you don’t discuss anything logistical.
Your relationship will benefit immensely from consistent, positive
verbal interactions like these.
2) Add
a fair amount of “Touch Charges”:
A Touch Charge is similar, but it uses touch instead of talk.
A Touch Charge is a LOVING physical gesture with your spouse.
It's not foreplay or an advance for love making; it's just a warm
touch for the sake of connecting in that moment. You should make
it clear that you're touching them solely to connect. Do something
you know will make them happy. Perhaps this will be a warm kiss
or a gentle rub. You could stroke their cheek or massage their
shoulders, whatever you know they enjoy. It only takes a moment,
but the positive energy can carry you through an entire evening.
And it when done consistently it will do wonders for your marriage.
3) Try
some “Giving” for seasoning:
What could you give your spouse that would make them glow and
look at you with intense appreciation? Did they recently mention
they wanted something? What's your spouse’s favorite dessert?
Favorite flower? Favorite spot for a romantic retreat? Try thinking
of a gift you could give that would make your spouse really happy.
Then give it to them. Do this often and watch your marriage improve.
4) Finally,
a happy marriage requires a healthy dose of “Getting Involved”:
A strong relationship is created when both spouses are committed
to being involved with one another. This will require a shift
in thought, a “Move from Me to We.” Love requires SPENDING TIME
TOGETHER and being involved in each other's lives. It’s not about
being independent; it’s about being successfully INTERdependent.
Do you remember when you used to visit each other at work? Meet
each other’s family and friends? When you were happy to help each
other out? That’s the ticket! The idea is to get involved somehow
in your spouse’s interest. This simple action will give your relationship
a boost where it needs it.
The above
“ingredients” can be added to your marriage in any order. Don’t
be afraid to experiment either. Your own recipe for lasting love
will take some time and adjustments, but if you follow these steps,
you are on your way to a happy marriage.
Want
the rest of the recipe? I have much more FREE advice for you and
a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached. All you have
to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email you both.
After the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further about an alternative to marriage counseling.
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I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
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