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Hi.
I'm Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share with
you an important marriage renewal tip (below), I want to offer
you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
All you have
to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further about how you can solve your marital problems.
Now here's
some advice to chew on for starters.
If you
are on a quest to fix your marital problems, you’re likely finding
it an overwhelming (and never-ending) process.
Just when
you think you might have one issue sorted out, another one equally
challenging rears its head. We see how this plays out on radio
and television shows where people call-in to share their problems.
It's fascinating the myriad of issues that couples face. What's
equally fascinating is the host's ability to find unique solutions
for all the different concerns. It makes for an interesting show,
but it's just not that complicated. Would you believe it if I
said that problem-solving is not the answer? What if I said that
there is only one solution for all marriage
trouble?
The reality is, the ultimate answer to every problem is the same—love.
LOVE IS THE FOUNDATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE, and all marital problems
stem from a lack of it. Got a problem? You don't need a solution.
You need more love. LOVE IS YOUR SOLUTION! Sound hokey? Think
about it though. Remember when you fell in love? What problems
did you have then? Hardly any, right? Because you had love! You
know that little thing your spouse does with their eye brow or
the corner of their mouth? Remember how you used to think it was
so cute? Then one day it became annoying, right? Why? Your spouse
used to be thrifty and now your spouse is cheap. WHAT CHANGED?
Your love changed—that's what changed! And the solution to that
annoying problem (and all your marital issues) is to rebuild your
love.
You see, the trouble in most marriages is the way the couple (and
sometimes the counselor) sees the problem. When people come to
me for marriage
counseling or when they register for the Marriage Fitness
Tele-Boot Camp™, their first inclination is to ask me for a solution
to their problems. My solution is for them to institute a series
of positive relationship habits that slowly but surely builds
a new foundation for their marriage.
Fixing problems and developing communication skills can lead to
small incremental changes in your marriage. But if you want to
transform your marital situation, if you want to make a quantum
change, you have to implement a pattern of new relationship habits.
You have to create love.
People
get all bogged down in the negativity of trying to solve their
problems. It's no fun and it's not productive. The crucial question
in marriage is NOT how to solve your problems; it's how to create
love. When you have love, your issues will dissipate and what
remains of them can be resolved in a much more forgiving marital
environment.
Your marital problems probably seem complex. But the good news
is that the solutions are simple. Focus on building your love,
and the issues will dissolve. I sincerely hope this insight into
relationship renewal will improve your marriage...it has mine.
I
have much more FREE advice for you and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
Sign-up
in the box to the right and I'll email you both. After the free
sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about
an alternative to marriage counseling.
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I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
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