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 Hi. I'm Mort Fertel, creator of
Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and
I have answers for you. Before I share with you an important marriage
renewal tip (below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage
assessment. No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up
in the box to the right and I'll email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further about how you can solve your marital problems.
Now here's some advice to chew
on for starters.
If you are on a quest to fix
your marital problems, you’re likely finding it an
overwhelming (and never-ending) process.
Just when you think you might
have one issue sorted out, another one equally challenging rears its
head. We see how this plays out on radio and television shows where
people call-in to share their problems. It's fascinating the myriad of
issues that couples face. What's equally fascinating is the host's
ability to find unique solutions for all the different concerns. It
makes for an interesting show, but it's just not that complicated.
Would you believe it if I said that problem-solving is not the answer?
What if I said that there is only one solution for all marriage
trouble?
The reality is, the ultimate answer to every problem is the
same—love. LOVE IS THE FOUNDATION OF YOUR MARRIAGE, and all
marital problems stem from a lack of it. Got a problem? You don't need
a solution. You need more love. LOVE IS YOUR SOLUTION! Sound hokey?
Think about it though. Remember when you fell in love? What problems
did you have then? Hardly any, right? Because you had love! You know
that little thing your spouse does with their eye brow or the corner of
their mouth? Remember how you used to think it was so cute? Then one
day it became annoying, right? Why? Your spouse used to be thrifty and
now your spouse is cheap. WHAT CHANGED? Your love
changed—that's what changed! And the solution to that
annoying problem (and all your marital issues) is to rebuild your love.
You see, the trouble in most marriages is the way the couple (and
sometimes the counselor) sees the problem. When people come to me for marriage
counseling or when they register for the Marriage Fitness
Tele-Boot Camp™, their first inclination is to ask me for a
solution to their problems. My solution is for them to institute a
series of positive relationship habits that slowly but surely builds a
new foundation for their marriage.
Fixing problems and developing communication skills can lead to small
incremental changes in your marriage. But if you want to transform your
marital situation, if you want to make a quantum change, you have to
implement a pattern of new relationship habits. You have to create love.
People get all bogged down in
the negativity of trying to solve their problems. It's no fun and it's
not productive. The crucial question in marriage is NOT how to solve
your problems; it's how to create love. When you have love, your issues
will dissipate and what remains of them can be resolved in a much more
forgiving marital environment.
Your marital problems probably seem complex. But the good news is that
the solutions are simple. Focus on building your love, and the issues
will dissolve. I sincerely hope this insight into relationship renewal
will improve your marriage...it has mine.
I have much more FREE advice for
you and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
Sign-up
in the box to the right and I'll email you both. After the free
sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about an
alternative to marriage counseling.
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I've
been where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more in a
moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next web page.
Warm
regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of Marriage Fitness
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