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Hi. I'm Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.

I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share with you an important marriage renewal tip (below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.

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After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about an alternative to marriage counseling.

Now here's some free advice for you.

You may have recently concluded that professional marriage help is in the best interests of you and you spouse. Perhaps you are considering marriage counseling or the latest marital enrichment techniques. If this is the case your spouse is likely in agreement that something be done to improve your marital situation. However, in your quest to fix your marriage, you may encounter resistance…from your spouse!

Your spouse may dwell on the 101 reasons why “this just won't work for us” and blame you for every one. Or, your spouse may be emotionally “checked-out” of the marriage and not care about your efforts to improve the situation or be willing to extend any effort of their own. In marriage counseling sessions there is one question that inevitably comes up: “How do I get my spouse to change?”

Why would your spouse resist POSITIVE change in your marriage and what should you do about it?

Before attempting counseling with a spouse opposed to change there is one thing that needs be to acknowledged. That is, your spouse will decide to change when they’re ready to change and not one second before. And the more you push them, urge them, nudge them, ask them, scream at them, or beg them, the LESS LIKELY they are to change. I know it’s hard to wait, but you have to let it come from them.

It’s possible someone could INSPIRE your spouse to change, but the person LEAST LIKELY to be the inspiration is YOU. It’s sad but true. A complete stranger is more likely to get through to your spouse than you are. A chance experience or encounter is more likely to shake up your spouse than anything YOU could do. So yes, counseling and marriage advice can help, but only if your spouse has come to it on their own terms.

Now you're probably thinking, “Makes sense, but isn't there anything I can do to encourage my spouse's choice?” YES, there is! One of the counseling tips I provide in the Marriage Fitness program is: BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE. Begin this journey yourself and let your spouse see how the choices YOU'RE making impact how YOU feel about yourself and your marriage. Resist the urge to believe that your marriage won’t change until your spouse “gets with the program.”

You see, the love YOU feel is much more a result of what YOU DO for your marriage than what your spouse does for it. And when you fill your marriage with loving actions, the feeling of love will follow. Loving actions can be demonstrated in many ways, such as: 1) spending sixty seconds really listening to your spouse, 2) giving the right gift, or 3) expressing confidence in one of your spouse’s decisions.

Marriage Fitness is a program that will show you how loving actions such as these can TRANSFORM YOUR MARRIAGE. And the best part is that you only need one person to initiate the change.

Very often one spouse will come to me for marriage coaching and ask if it makes sense for them to be coached alone. The answer is yes! One spouse can make more than a 50% difference in a marriage. And that difference is often exactly what will get the other spouse to open up to marriage counseling too.

“You can lead me a mile, but you can’t push me an inch.”

So, bottom line— It's YOU changing that has the greatest impact on YOUR EXPERIENCE of your marriage, AND it's YOU changing that is the single most important thing you can do to motivate your spouse to follow.

I have much more FREE advice for you and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.

Sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email you both. After the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about an alternative to marriage counseling.

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I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next web page.

Warm regards,

Mort Fertel

Author of Marriage Fitness

Marriage Coach

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