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Hi. I'm Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness, a system for marriage renewal.

I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share with you some secrets to marriage success (below), I want to offer you FREE help and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached. All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email you both.

After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further how I can help you fix your marriage.

Let me guess, you have found yourself in the position of seeking out marriage help. I can start you off with some great advice, but first let me share with you a quote I came across today. You may find that it relates to your marital situation.

"The difficultly with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but we must live with a character."

- Peter Devries.

The profundity of this statement can only be appreciated if we understand what is meant by "character."

"Personality" is easy to understand. Your "personality" is how people experience you. It's your public persona.

But what is "character?" What's your "character?" What's your spouse's "character?" And why is "character" so crucial for marital success?

Character is who you are when no one is watching.

Let me say that again so you can read it slowly and really digest it this time.

Character is who you are when no one is watching.

You see, when you and your spouse met, you met each other's personalities. You showed your spouse (and you were shown by your spouse) a public persona. I'm not saying you tricked each other. It's not something you can help, it’s just your personality…how you display yourself to others.

But marriage lasts too long in too close quarters for anyone to sustain a public persona. Personalities give way to an inner self that you can’t help but reveal eventually. And there you each stand, naked as if no one is watching. But someone is watching. You're watching each other. And you meet for the first time…again!

You don't meet the person who charmed each other's friends, bought gifts for each other's parents, and always smiled from ear to ear. No, this time it's a meeting of your CHARACTERS. And it's a first meeting…for both of you.

In many cases, it's not only that you're meeting each other for the first time, but it's that you're meeting yourselves for the first time. Most people wouldn't be caught dead treating anyone the way they treat their spouse. Most people don't recognize their own behavior. "I can’t seem to help it- I'm just not myself with him/her." Well then who is that person? That’s YOU…it’s your character. (And your spouse meets their character.)

And this is why so many people fail at marriage and an attempt at marriage renewal. It's not that they don't like their spouse. It's that they don't like themselves. And while everyone else in their life is like a mirror reflecting their personality; their spouse is a mirror reflecting their character. And most people don't like what they see.

Many people would rather choose to be with someone else than remain with their spouse and have to continue to be with themselves. (Did you get that?)

Balthasar Gracian wrote in his 17th century manual on success, The Art of Worldly Wisdom, as follows: “You are as much a real person as you are deep. As with the depths of a diamond, the interior is twice as important as the surface. There are people who are all facade, like a house left unfinished when the funds run out. They have the entrance of a palace but the inner rooms of a cottage.”

Marriage renewal and individual character development go hand-in-hand.

This is the secret to Marriage Fitness. Marriage Fitness will not only help you change your relationship, but it does so in a way that helps you and your spouse feel better about yourselves.

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