Hi. I'm
Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I
share with you one step to saving your marriage (below), I want
to offer you FREE marriage help and a FREE marriage assessment.
No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll
email you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you save your marriage.
Why is
it that some people are successful at saving their marriage, while
others are not? It's a good question, isn't it?
Think of
this challenge in terms of an athlete’s desire to succeed in a
sport. Why do athletes sacrifice, endure pain, push their bodies
beyond their limits, and pass up other opportunities? The answer:
they want to! And why do they want to? BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT.
The same
goes for your marriage. If you believe your relationship is worth
reviving then you need to go after that goal with the energy and
time it deserves. You see, if you set your sights on achieving
marital success, then it’s more than likely you will achieve that
goal. You are serious about changing your marital situation, that
much is for sure. The question is then HOW. How will you go about
saving your marriage?
Fixing
a damaged relationship is like training for a gold medal—it takes
2 kinds of commitment. It takes commitment to do some things AND
a commitment to AVOID doing others.
The first
element of your marriage renewal plan could be considered the
“training” phase. You learn how to do the activities that are
required for success. It’s possible that you’ve heard about some
of the secrets to marital success I provide in Marriage Fitness.
If so, you may have learned about Talk Charges, Touch Charges,
Giving, and Getting Involved—all things TO DO. By using these
positive actions on a consistent basis, you can heal marital strife
and rebuild the love that’s lacking in your relationship.
The second
requirement for saving your relationship is not about what you
do, but what you DON’T do. This is where you must learn to refrain
from the activities that will inhibit your success. Sometimes
you need to make a sacrifice to gain something. If your goal is
to save your marriage, then there are some activities you must
just stop doing. Some behavior is just not conducive to a healthy
relationship.
This exercise
therefore does not require you DO anything; it asks you to REFRAIN
from doing something. “Refrain from doing what?” you might ask.
You can get lots of detailed instruction in Chapter 7 of Marriage
Fitness about how to refrain from the activities most harmful
to your relationship, but for now your task is to pick one thing
OF YOUR CHOICE. What one thing, if you refrained from doing it,
would improve your marriage? What one thing are YOU doing that’s
unhealthy for your relationship? Pick one thing and begin refraining
from it today.
Saving
your relationship will require the commitment to begin using new
habits, while learning to also refrain from behavior that inhibits
your marital success.
If
you'd like to learn more tips about how to have a better marriage
, then sign up in the box to the right and I'll send you FREE
advice and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
After the
free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further
about an alternative to marriage counseling.
.
I've been
where you're at and I have answers for you. I'll explain more
in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll see you on the next
web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of
Marriage Fitness
Marriage Coach
Marriage
Fitness with Mort Fertel
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