Hi.
I'm Mort Fertel, creator of Marriage Fitness.
I've been where you're at and I have answers for you. Before I share
with you one step to saving your marriage (below), I want to offer you
FREE marriage help and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings attached.
All you have to do is sign-up in the box to the right and I'll email
you both.
After your free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain
further how you save your marriage.
Why is it that some people are successful at saving their marriage,
while others are not? It's a good question, isn't it?
Think of this challenge in
terms of an athlete’s desire to succeed in a sport. Why do
athletes sacrifice, endure pain, push their bodies beyond their limits,
and pass up other opportunities? The answer: they want to! And why do
they want to? BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT.
The same goes for your
marriage. If you believe your relationship is worth reviving then you
need to go after that goal with the energy and time it deserves. You
see, if you set your sights on achieving marital success, then
it’s more than likely you will achieve that goal. You are
serious about changing your marital situation, that much is for sure.
The question is then HOW. How will you go about saving your marriage?
Fixing a damaged relationship
is like training for a gold medal—it takes 2 kinds of
commitment. It takes commitment to do some things AND a commitment to
AVOID doing others.
The first element of your
marriage renewal plan could be considered the
“training” phase. You learn how to do the
activities that are required for success. It’s possible that
you’ve heard about some of the secrets to marital success I
provide in Marriage Fitness. If so, you may have learned about Talk
Charges, Touch Charges, Giving, and Getting Involved—all
things TO DO. By using these positive actions on a consistent basis,
you can heal marital strife and rebuild the love that’s
lacking in your relationship.
The second requirement for
saving your relationship is not about what you do, but what you
DON’T do. This is where you must learn to refrain from the
activities that will inhibit your success. Sometimes you need to make a
sacrifice to gain something. If your goal is to save your marriage,
then there are some activities you must just stop doing. Some behavior
is just not conducive to a healthy relationship.
This exercise therefore does
not require you DO anything; it asks you to REFRAIN from doing
something. “Refrain from doing what?” you might
ask. You can get lots of detailed instruction in Chapter 7 of Marriage
Fitness about how to refrain from the activities most harmful to your
relationship, but for now your task is to pick one thing OF YOUR
CHOICE. What one thing, if you refrained from doing it, would improve
your marriage? What one thing are YOU doing that’s unhealthy
for your relationship? Pick one thing and begin refraining from it
today.
Saving your relationship will require the commitment to begin using new
habits, while learning to also refrain from behavior that inhibits your
marital success.
If you'd like to learn more tips about how to
have a better marriage , then sign up in the box to the right and I'll
send you FREE advice and a FREE marriage assessment. No strings
attached.
After
the free sign-up, you'll go to a web page that'll explain further about
an alternative to marriage counseling.
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I've been where you're at and I have answers
for you. I'll explain more in a moment. Do the free sign-up and I'll
see you on the next web page.
Warm regards,
Mort Fertel
Author of Marriage Fitness
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